Patriarchy vs. feminism (or complementarianism vs. egalitarianism), heated topic that it is, has people firmly entrenched in their opposing camps. However, as I’ve seen so many viewpoints along the continuum between the sides, I’d like to examine and try to understand the many different arguments out there.
First, we’ll take a look at a Vision Forum article by Brian Abshire, written in 2005. Abshire begins by giving us a picture of the trouble American society is in right now (and how we got here):
The Christian family, especially the role of the father, has been under relentless attack by the forces of secular humanism. Egalitarianism, though arising originally in a legitimate desire to allow all men, regardless of race, to enjoy the benefits of Christian civilization, eventually came to enthrone the will of the individual and to decry ANY differences-including biological ones. In the past fifty years women were “liberated” from the home and promised that they could “have it all” including family, career and autonomy if they adopted humanist values. However, humanism has largely destroyed the American family; birth rates plummeted to sub-zero replacement levels, divorce rates skyrocketed, and millions of children, the victims of broken homes, are now at risk of mutigenerational poverty, crime, and drug addiction; in effect becoming cultural parasites.
What’s the solution? Patriarchy is the “biblical alternative”.
While one cannot really yet call it a “movement”, the term “patriarchy” has made a return describing an attempt to develop a counter-cultural model of the Christian family and by extension, a just Christian social order. Those who self-consciously identify themselves as supporting “patriarchy” are not yet united in just what this term entails but there are enough people affirming this view that many in the wider Christian community now believe them to a “serious threat” that needs to be addressed. Books, web sites, journal and magazine articles are appearing in various places critiquing the “patriarchs.” Since the contemporary cultural model of the Christian family is clearly dysfunctional (i.e., 75% of children growing up in the “average” evangelical home will leave the faith by the age of twenty-five and divorce rates for Christians are approaching secular norms), many Christians are looking for an alternative model. While examining the reasons why the Christian family has crumbled so quickly is beyond the scope of one brief essay, it is worth our time to examine “patriarchy” as a viable, biblical alternative.
He more clearly defines what he means by “patriarchy”:
The word “patriarchy” simply means “rule by fathers” and stands in opposition to such alternative ideas as “oligarchy” (rule by elites), “monarchy” (rule by one-usually a king), “aristocracy” (rule by a privileged class), or “democracy” (rule by the “people”) etc. In all the above “systems,” rule by SOMEONE is inevitable; somebody must have the final authority for making decisions. Modern humanist culture has indoctrinated most people, including Christians, to assume that “democracy” is somehow the “best” form of government with the idea that everyone is “equal” and should have an “equal” say in everything. This idea of “democracy” has even infiltrated the Christian home with a widespread elimination of distinct roles between men and women and a subsequent devaluation of the authority of the parents. However, it might be interesting for the average Christians to learn that the men who gave us our “democratic” institutions, ushering in the most productive, freest and socially responsible cultures in the world’s history ALL rejected “democracy.”
This bit about democracy goes beyond the scope of defining patriarchy, but I am interested because it’s an argument I haven’t seen before. I’ve never heard anyone claim that ”federalism” is the “biblical” model. He argues:
The Reformers saw “Democracy” as an ancient Greek heresy contrary to biblical social and political theory. Instead, the greatest theologians of the Reformation affirmed the doctrine of “federalism” or “representation” based upon the model found in Genesis. In this view, one man stands for the group. Theologically it referred to Adam representing the entire human race (yet unborn) and therefore when he sinned, we all sinned in him. The corollary to this was Jesus being the Second Adam, standing in for His Elect; if we all died in Adam; we are all saved in Christ. Through federal representation, His death could atone for all His people’s sins (Rms 5:12-19).
Interesting. The point is, as far as patriarchy is concerned, that the father is the “federal representative of his own family to the broader community”. If you continue in this vein, it is easy to come to the following conclusion: it is not necessary for women to have the right to vote. Prior to women’s suffrage in our country, the father was assumed to represent the family (as in “federalism”), and there can be only one representative of a family. Abshire continues:
By the 20th century, American Christians saw the “height” of Christian activism as banning alcohol while at the same time affirming a woman’s right to vote. Both ideas were unmitigated disasters; God has not allowed the civil magistrate to outlaw wine and God does not allow women to vote (cf. 1 Tim 2:11ff). But by ignoring God’s law, American Christians both destroyed their own credibility (the Prohibition era is STILL a matter of public ridicule and repealing prohibition set the legal precedence for pornography, sodomy and the acceptance of other moral failures) and the integrity of own families.
In regards to a woman’s right to vote; if husband and wife are truly “one flesh” and the husband is doing his duty to represent the family to the wider community, then what PRACTICAL benefit does allowing women to vote provide? If husband and wife agree on an issue, then one has simply doubled the number of votes; but the result is the same. Women’s voting only makes a difference when the husband and wife disagree; a wife, who does not trust the judgment of her husband, can nullify his vote. Thus, the immediate consequence is to enshrine the will of the individual OVER the good of the family thus creating divisions WITHIN the family.
Let’s look at a few of the points Abshire makes, which he also supports with scripture. I have written out the Scriptures for your reference.
- God does not allow women to vote. (He references 1 Timothy 2:11, which says: “Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness”.)
- The father has the God-given right to govern the family and the wife and children are to submit to that governance. (1 Cor. 11:8–For man was not made from woman, but woman from man; 1 Tim. 2:11; Eph. 5:22-23–Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.
- Nothing, not even the church, can usurp the father’s authority in the home. (1 Cor. 14:34–the women should keep silent in the churches. For they are not permitted to speak, but should be in submission, as the Law also says.)
- The husband should not devalue the wife, because they are “one flesh.” (1 Cor 6:16-17–Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him.)
- The wife is to “respect her husband and submit to him”. (1 Peter 3:1–Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives.)
- The husband is to treat the wife kindly. (1 Peter 3:7–Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.)
- Biblical patriarchy is different from pagan patriarchy in that God values women’s abilities beyond those of childbearing and domestic duties. (Proverbs 31)
- The husband is to work for the sanctification of his wife. (Eph. 5:23).
- The husband’s authority is a benefit to the wife and children. The husband’s responsibility is to discipline the children and to work toward the wife’s sanctification. (Eph. 6:1ff–Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. . . ) [my note: Eph. chapter 6 does not mention wives. I assume he's referring to Eph. 5 as well.]
- The father’s responsiblity is to teach his wife and children. The material for this teaching is derived from his private meditation on Scripture. (Joshua 1:8–The Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success.)
- The father is to lead family worship. (Deuteronoy 6:4ff) [my note: this chapter is addressed to Israel, the nation. It instructs Israel to teach its children. Wives (or families) are not mentioned.]
- When children get married, they move on to a new “covenant relationship”, in other words, a transition of authority occurs and the son becomes the authority of his new household. However, the father/grandfather may continue to have some authority in the case, say, of a family business. (Genesis 2:24–Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.)
He makes some additional points:
- It does not make sense to invest thousands of dollars in college educations for their daughters. Women who go to college and have a career are less to likely to have children. He says, “We do not need MORE female Christian lawyers, doctors or artists, but MORE godly women raising MORE godly children who will fill the earth and subdue it to the glory of God. And does it really make economic sense to invest tens of thousands of dollars for a woman to get an advanced education (often having to go into debt to finance that education) that she will NOT use if she accepts that her highest calling is to be a wife and mother?”
- When we see men tyrannizing their women, what we see is men sinning, not evidence that there is a problem with patriarchy.
Questions
I would like to better understand what is meant by the husband working toward the sanctification of the wife. Abshire cites Ephesians 5:23: “For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.” It would be good to know, of course, precisely what Abshire means by “sanctification” and whether he means there some correlation between being the head and being the “savior” in verse 23.
According to my New International Dictionary of the Bible, sanctification is “the process of result of being made holy”. How does the husband do this for the wife? Is the husband necessary for the wife to be sanctified?
Lastly, I have to ask, what about men and women who do not get married? Do they never move on to their own “households”. And, specficially, what is expected of women who do not marry and who have not gone to college?